自信 Confidence

Where does that confidence come from?

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I think it’s important to have that baseless confidence, believing that things will somehow work out.

Things have always turned out fine for me.

So, confidence doesn’t need to have a basis, right?

But it’s not so easy to come by.

How do you build confidence? Sometimes it feels like you just have to do it, right?

I’m trying to avoid being unkind to others out of self-defense.

After all, having a lack of confidence is just my own issue.

Others don’t know what I’m feeling.

I tend to keep my distance from those types of people.

Because it feels impossible to deal with them, given their rigid thinking.

History can change.

Maybe that person has had terrible experiences in the past, like being stabbed multiple times or being hit by a thousand arrows.

They might be avoiding their trauma by becoming a tyrant due to their sad experiences.

There’s nothing that can be done about it anymore.

I absolutely hate the idea that the victim is at fault.

In cases of bullying, it’s clear that the bully is in the wrong, yet there’s a tendency to blame the victim, which is mentally unhealthy.

Japan has that kind of mindset, and I really dislike it.

I have an aversion to it.

My family is currently having allergic reactions, and I have allergies in my eyes as well.

Perhaps someone might have confidence in many things, but lack it in just one particular area.

Anyway, it’s tough to keep antennas up every day and behave in a way that avoids trouble.

I have no confidence at all.

And it’s perfectly okay to say that! ^ - ^

“YOUFORYOU” is a symbol that represents support for yourself.

The “Clear” logo offers you transparent support.

Design is about thoughtfulness. ^ - ^

単純明快 Simple and clear

Anyone would prefer simple and straightforward things because they feel clearer and easier, right?

We want to have more fun, and we want to be freed from pain as quickly as possible.

But you know, things don’t always go that smoothly.

That’s why we struggle, we suffer, and sometimes we feel like crying.

But I have my art.

I’m so glad I’ve had this strong ally with me since I was young, and I’m grateful to my parents for that.

When dealing with people who tend to act without overthinking and keep things simple, it’s important to respond to them simply, in a way that matches their personality and thinking patterns.

To prevent causing any trouble, it’s crucial to think about how we can handle situations in advance. For example, setting clear rules and boundaries is key. Telling them that we will take the lead in important decisions can help avoid confusion.

While respecting their strengths, approaching them patiently may help deepen mutual understanding.

A trustworthy leader isn’t someone who always thinks in simple, straightforward terms, but someone who understands different people’s circumstances, actions, and opinions, and responds appropriately.

A true leader naturally wishes for the happiness of everyone around them.

That’s so cool, isn’t it? I want to be someone like that, no matter how old I get.

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I may not be a leader in any sense, but I’ve learned that design is all about thoughtfulness, as I’ve written in my previous blog. The design of the concept message under the ‘Clear’ logo on my homepage, the design optimized for mobile viewing, and for some reason, most of my Instagram followers are from Brazil, India, and São Paulo. (I wonder why!)

So, I’ve added a quick-click button to easily jump to translation sites.

I’m having a lot of fun creating my homepage.

Thank you so much 😊

のっそり Slowly

Recently, I started reading articles from “Modern Business,” and nowadays, we live in an era where having a rational way of thinking is considered good. The concept of a Win-Win relationship—meaning, “If you are like this, then I will be like that.”

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There is no right or wrong. What matters is what’s inside.

I’ve interacted with many people, and I tend to think a lot about how to approach people who are exclusive. Let’s take a moment to understand the meaning of “exclusive.”

What is the correct meaning of “exclusive”?

“Exclusive” refers to rejecting outsiders or not accepting them into a group. It implies the tendency to exclude those who are not part of one’s own group or organization. For example, imagine there is an organization that refuses to accept foreigners. Such an organization can be considered an exclusive group. Similarly, a person who tries to exclude anyone who doesn’t share their views or way of thinking can be described as having an exclusive mindset.

(Source from a web search.)

If exclusivity continues for too long, it can cause issues in many areas, and eventually, things won’t go smoothly or may face physical limitations, making it difficult to move forward.

Thinking habits can be quite complicated. Dealing with such people requires careful attention.

Why? Because it often involves deep internal issues, making it a very sensitive matter. It’s essential to approach this without getting emotionally involved. Direct communication might work, but if rejection continues, there’s no way to engage further.

In such cases, it’s important to maintain some distance. It’s best to wait for an appropriate moment to have a conversation.

If the person shows defensive behavior, it’s important not to push too hard. Instead, wait for a quiet moment when no one is around, and gently repeat your message.

Slowly, gradually, like an elephant.

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And eventually, they’ll be able to dive into the pool and enjoy a nice bath.

今私は Now I

Right now, I am very healthy.

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I feel so grateful for that. When I think about people with disabilities or those who are sick, I realize they must be going through so much.

I’m thankful just to be healthy and alive in this world.

By the way, I really love having fun, like singing or air-drumming—basically, I really enjoy music ^-^

It may sound insensitive, but I believe healthy people should live their lives as healthy people.

Of course, there are many people in the world who are not healthy, but at the end of the day, I am still me.

I can’t carry someone else’s life for them. I can’t help them, and there’s nothing I can really do about it, right?

I can’t even say a word of comfort to them. I’m sorry for that, but that’s why I have to live my life as myself.

Within what I can do, I hope everyone can be happy.

Speaking of which, I’m in the gray zone of developmental disabilities, and I have quite a lot of things I’m not good at, like talking to people outside of my family. I get nervous and fidgety, and that happens quite often.

Even when I’m working, sometimes I miss things or make mistakes, which gets me a bit down.

When I speak, I tend to be really straightforward, like English—just simple—and I find Japanese a bit hard at times. But when it comes to things I’m good at, I’m reeeeally good at them.

I’m quite unbalanced.

It would be nice if I could do things more evenly, but that’s not easy.

But I’m doing my best to live my life.

My body’s in perfect shape, I don’t have any illnesses, and I can still do calculations. There are lots of things I can do.

So, I’m energetic ^-^

I’m grateful ⭐︎

I’m not married, and I don’t have kids, though I sometimes think, “I want them!♡” ^-^

There was a time when someone said that painting means you’re not happy.

It’s true, I often pour my struggles, worries, and anxieties into my art.

So, there are many times when I feel like, “I don’t want to paint anymore!!”

That’s the inner conflict I’m going through right now.

What does it mean to be happy as a woman?

That’s exactly why it’s so important to be with people who accept me for who I am and appreciate me.

And to those who occasionally read my blog…

Thank you so much ^-^